Asking for a woman’s hand in marriage is one of the most important things a man will do in his lifetime. Therefore, a good deal of planning should be put into the setting and timing of this event. If you are certain that she is the one you want to spend your life with, it’s time to do a bit of research on how to make the perfect proposal.
Coming up with the right way to ask those four special words (“Will you marry me?”) can be a challenge even for guys who are in touch with their romantic side. You’re probably thinking it has to be unique and over-the-top as we’re used to seeing in Hollywood movies – something that will sweep her off her feet and she’ll never forget. But the truth is, as long as it’s heartfelt and sincere – there’s no way you can go wrong. Having said that, let’s look at a few great ideas to help make your proposal even more unforgettable.
Pick a sentimental location
Every couple has a story, and making the proposal part of the narrative of your own is delightfully romantic and meaningful. It could be that restaurant, where you shared a meal after talking for hours on your first date or the park bench, where you first realized you wanted to spend your lives together – there are plenty of emotionally-charged spots all over the town you live in, which would make the perfect setting for the next chapter in your relationship. When you’re wondering how to make the perfect proposal, remember, that often – less is more. Not all women want elaborate planning and flamboyant setting to be asked a question they so want to hear. Keeping it simple, familiar and sincere is a beautiful way to show you care and you’ll be there for her ‘through thick and thin’.
Make your friends and loved ones a part of it
Happy people instinctively want to share their joy with the rest of the world. But instead of screaming that you just got engaged off the rooftops of buildings, why not share it with the people who love you? Popping the question at a family gathering or holiday dinner with friends creates a sense of belonging to a larger community of people that care about you. It’s intimate yet at the same time – cosy and comfortable. And as the stream of hugs and congratulations starts pouring in after she says ‘yes’, there is no greater feeling than the one of support as you take the next step as a couple. You can even make your friends and family part of the proposal as you have them wear T-shirts or hold balloons with different letters. Then, at a certain time during the gathering they can arrange to spell out the question you want to ask her.
Write it Out in Flowers
Order a surprise proposal bouquet and arrange floral décor at the site you have chosen. You can customize the number and arrangement of the flowers you use to symbolize the number of years you’ve been together or anything else you wish. You can always spell out ‘Will you marry me?’ in her favourite flowers or even balloons for a more exciting way to pop the question. Use the season to add a touch of whimsy to your proposal with arranging the fallen leaves or freshly picked flowers in a pattern of your choice. In Winter you can spell your question in the snow and in Summer you can take a trip to the beach and write it on the sand.
Do It the Old-fashioned Way
If you know and regularly talk to her parents, a simple yet incredibly powerful and sentimental moment will be asking her father for her hand in marriage. This is quite proper and gallant of a man to do and both the bride-to-be and your future father-in-law will be touched and pleased by your thoughtfulness and respect. This is a simple way of showing your intentions are serious without going over-the-top with some elaborate design and time-setting. It can be done over casual dinner with the future in-laws and she’ll love both the meaningful gesture and being the center of attention.
Make it Public
There is a variety of ways in which you can make a proposal that is truly special, fun and exciting. From flashmobs that can spell out ‘Will you marry me?’ to having it written across the sky with a plane; installing a billboard on a route she frequently uses or taking her to an aquarium and having one of the divers hold up a sign with the four words underwater. There is no limit to how many ways you can come up with to pop the question in public. However, you have to be absolutely sure that she’s the type of person who enjoys surprises and being put in the spotlight as for some this can be a bit too intense of an experience.
Whisk Her Away on a Romantic Getaway
An oldie but goodie that many men swear by is planning a weekend getaway at a quiet destination. It can be in the countryside, at the seaside or up in the mountains – choose a place you know she loves. Spend a day sightseeing at a local town or attraction, simply enjoying each other’s company. Finish the night with an intimate dinner for two at a secluded restaurant and have the room filled with roses and champagne when you return for the grand finale. You can even hide the ring in the dessert or inside an album with pictures of your happiest moments as a couple with the sparkling diamond on the last page under the words ‘Will You Marry Me?’ She will surely love the way how you’ve introduced the next chapter in your love story in such a romantic way.
Now that you’ve figured out how to make the perfect proposal, it’s time to pick out a ring that will sweep her off her feet without spoiling the surprise. Why not read through How to Find Out Her Ring Size without Her Finding Out for a few good ideas on style recommendations, proven methods for selecting the right ring and jewelers’ best tips and techniques. When you’re ready, drop a hint for your partner and see if she likes your choice! And remember, the recipe for the perfect proposal is actually the same as the one to a happy and fulfilling relationship: love, communication and looking in the same direction. It really is that simple!